Sometimes couples alienate each other as they try to communicate their needs. As misunderstandings escalate, even minor issues can turn into major ordeals. Disputes often have more to do with the way couples communicate than what they are actually trying to say. When couples don't communicate directly and respectfully, they are made vulnerable to patterns involving antagonism, avoidance, resentment or other negative feelings towards each other. Couples with effective conflict resolution habits will resolve arguments more quickly and both people will feel positive about the outcome.
When the couple has the tools to confront challenges together, obstacles to the relationship can be directly addressed such as attitude differences, perceived discrepancies in attention paid to each other as well as specific disagreements over issues.